Your first love.
You remember it, right? Come on, you know you do. Racing heart, sweaty palms and tingly, ahem, southern regions. Whether you think of your first love fondly, or perhaps that person brings a bad taste to your mouth, most people – women especially – love ‘First Love’ love stories.
What is it about first love that makes us weak in the knees? Is it the thrill of the unknown, when everything is new and exciting? Is it the idea of experiencing that “head over heels” sensation for the very first time? Or maybe it’s the innocent simplicity of it all? Whatever the reason, we love it. We love to hear about it, read about it, and watch it in movies. But why does the idea of first love leave such a strong impact on us?
I will never forget my first love. High school. Senior year. A roller coaster of emotions. I remember him not because I miss him or wish I had ended up with him (thank the good Lord I didn’t), but many people believe that our first love becomes a gauge that all future relationships are measured against. Some may be searching for that special person who makes them feel as happy as they believe their first love made them. Others might be using that first love experience to remind them how not to have a relationship. Whatever the case may be, we all took something from that first liaison.
Hopefully, our first love taught us what it meant to be in a relationship. We learned how to give ourselves completely to someone else. We learned how to accept someone giving themselves to us. We learned what we liked and what we didn’t like. We learned what it meant to be truly intimate with another person. Not just physically, but emotionally, too.
With any luck, we learned how to handle adversity. We figured out that compromising isn’t only important in a relationship, but essential. Most likely, we also learned how to get over a broken heart. And if we were really lucky, we discovered that our first love was merely a stepping stone to bigger and better things.
Every relationship has its share of challenges, and those challenges help shape who we are and who we will become. However you view your first love, embrace the fact that no matter how it ended (or hasn’t ended) it most definitely has had an impact on your life, and who you are today.